The Dauber Family

Having come to Adat Chaverim about 5 years ago, the Dauber family has made their personal impact on our congregation.

A strong family unit of 5 – Debbie, Ken, Max, Eve and Seth – they together and individually acclimated quickly into the bustle of Adat Chaverim life.
Debbie has served as member of the Board of Trustees and as a member of the Religious School Committee. Ken is involved with Brotherhood and is currently Vice President.
Max and Eve have chosen to continue their religious education at Adat Chaverim. Both are part of the Macharnik program. They both like working closely with our teachers and the children to whom they are assigned. Seth, now in 7th grade, looks forward to his Bar Mitzvah next June. Not only are they all busy with Adat Chaverim, they are involved in sports programs, Boy Scouts, high school band and other school programs that round out their outside personal commitments (Oh, yes, GO LONGHORNS!)

For Debbie and Ken, joining Adat Chaverim balanced their personal commitments to Judaism. Debbie grew up in a Reform Jewish household that was not involved but, as an adult, it was important for her to become a Bat Mitzvah. Ken, on the other hand, has a strong Conservative background. After attending both Reform and Conservative synagogues in the area, both felt Adat Chaverim struck the right balance for them. They like the people and they feel it is a good community for their family. They enjoy the feel of the religious services. “The transition wasn’t easy,” said Max, “but I had friends here.” He felt welcomed here when the family came to Adat Chaverim. Seth remarked, “Everyone was nice . . . (they) talked with me.” Ken feels that Adat Chaverim services has the mix they were looking for – a balance of English/Hebrew and the congregation is comfortable with that — “People know what to do,” he said. For Debbie, religion is important to the family because it teaches the right values to their kids. They wanted to be part of that kind of religious community. What their children think is important to Debbie and Ken. It is apparent that the core of this family is group decision-making. When asked what aspects of about Adat Chaverim they like, Eve noted that she likes several different things — in particular the teachers, the Macharnik program and the classes. Max took the opportunity to point out the he liked the method of teaching. He said, “We’re part of the synagogue and the community. We connect Jewishly.”

The discussion then turned to why a new building is so important. Ken’s feeling was that the current location in a shopping center doesn’t showcase the true congregation. He feels we need space; to show ourselves. We need to “stand alone” to do more programming that will attract more congregants. Debbie pointed out that we need a new building for space and that the northern (Collin County) community needs us. Seth remarked that, “It’s time to move. We need to bring in more people and friends.” Max felt the same way. “We need to draw more people in and expand greatly. Space defines who you are. . . mixing both old and new.” Turning to what connects Jewish people — food, Eve said that Adat Chaverim needs a bigger kitchen. “Judaism is about a lot of food.” She also pointed out that the kitchen makes the connection to the Social Hall which in turn makes the connection to the sanctuary. “Our Social Hall is the essence of Adat!”

All that being said, how does donating to the Capital Campaign fit into their thinking? Ken’s feeling is that our congregants have to buy into the whole step-up. “Everyone has to get into the game! We can’t think that the next person is going to get it done. We all have to be part of it.” “Everyone has to be a part of it (the giving)”, remarked Eve. Seth added, “It’s like building a (family) table. Everyone uses it forever.”

Debbie feels that convincing everyone to be a participant in building a permanent place for Adat Chaverim is difficult. Younger congregants and single parent families, who aren’t use to giving, need to be shown how important this campaign is to the congregation. A new “home” is where the congregation can grow with more young people and more young families who all contribute to the good of Adat Chaverim.

Can anyone doubt that this very involved family is in touch with our congregation and can “see” the future vision of Adat Chaverim?